QUESTION My wife has symptoms of depression and paranoia. She has never been officially diagnosed because she won’t go in to see a therapist. She is high functioning in everyday type activities, but is unable to allow herself to be loved by me or other adults because she doesn’t believe we are sincere in our […]

QUESTION: My older sister has been emotionally abusive to me, two younger sisters, and (when they tried to step in and help) my parents.  She has manipulated others in the family to believe that we have mistreated her, even though they will admit that she overreacts to things, and gets upset and lashes out when […]

QUESTION  My oldest daughter, Krista (not her real name) will turn 8 soon and be baptized. Krista has always struggled with lying. She will carry on a lie for an hour, even when we know 100% that she is lying. Yesterday for instance, she lied for 45 minutes about taking a bite of a piece […]

QUESTION I read Choosing Glory yesterday and loved it. I just wanted to comment on the idea that suffering is the route to changing terrestrial to celestial. My life is one of peace, joy, service, love and deep-seated contentment. I can honestly say I have no trials in my life, only blessings. My husband is […]

QUESTION I was married in the Temple 18 years ago and I have 6 children living at home.  My marriage has been continually emotionally and at times physically abusive. My husband’s anger and rage lie just beneath the surface and we live in fear that he will explode at any moment.  I have asked my […]

(Note from Lili: My apologies to some who submit questions and wait a long time for an answer. Thanks for your patience. Thanks, too, to all who read and comment. I really appreciate your thoughts.) QUESTION I saw your August 2010 Ed Week presentation on BYU TV (dealing with hurt and anger).  It was excellent! […]

QUESTION My husband and I have serious marriage problems.  We’ve been married for 31 years and basically, I have never felt connected to him emotionally.  We married before I felt that connection, and I naively thought it was something you got after living together.  In my attempts to address this, he has felt inadequate to […]

QUESTION There are two scriptures that have long troubled me that I would appreciate your perspective on. The scriptures are:  Alma [34:34] and Mormon [9:14]. Alma [34:34]: Ye cannot say, when ye are brought to that awful crisis, that I will repent, that I will return to my God. Nay, ye cannot say this; for […]

QUESTION I understand the idea of “making it worth their while” in parenting.  However, could you give me some specific examples so I can understand how to apply it?  My youngest (of four) is fourteen–a darling daughter that I cherish.  I have taught her piano for a decade and still can’t seem to “make it […]

Note:  Asperger’s Syndrome is a milder variant of Autistic Disorder characterized by significant difficulties in social interaction, along with limited and repeated patterns of interest and behavior. QUESTION  Any ideas for assisting our 17 year old son with Asperger’s who is very oppositional? ANSWER  My husband, Chris, has worked with some clients like your son—late […]