QUESTION I understand the idea of “making it worth their while” in parenting. However, could you give me some specific examples so I can understand how to apply it? My youngest (of four) is fourteen–a darling daughter that I cherish. I have taught her piano for a decade and still can’t seem to “make it […]
Note: Asperger’s Syndrome is a milder variant of Autistic Disorder characterized by significant difficulties in social interaction, along with limited and repeated patterns of interest and behavior. QUESTION Any ideas for assisting our 17 year old son with Asperger’s who is very oppositional? ANSWER My husband, Chris, has worked with some clients like your son—late […]
I have been married 7 1/2 years. My husband and I were married in the temple, both of us coming from strong LDS families/backgrounds. About a year into our marriage my husband confided in me that he was struggling with his faith and did not necessarily believe in God anymore. I honestly thought at this […]
This post is prompted by a comment/question responding to my last post on how to choose a therapist. The very relevant question, asked by “Pops,” was: “Who should see a therapist? These days we get therapy and medication for what would have been treated some time ago with a swift kick in the pants.” ANSWER […]
I am often asked how to choose a therapist. My answer: LET THE BUYER BEWARE. Here are a few thoughts. Therapy is not cheap, so it makes sense to begin by checking with your insurance to see if there may be some coverage for mental/emotional health services. If there is coverage, there is generally a […]
This thought comes from an insight my husband, Chris, had several years ago. In the course of his scripture studies, he noticed that God does not use the word “plan” as a verb. Scripturally, the word, “plan,” is always a noun. “Plan(s)” appears in the standard works (Bible, Book of Mormon, Doctrine & Covenants, and […]
QUESTION There are two scriptures that have long troubled me that I would appreciate your perspective on. The scriptures are: Alma [34:34] and Mormon [9:14]. Alma [34:34]: Ye cannot say, when ye are brought to that awful crisis, that I will repent, that I will return to my God. Nay, ye cannot say this; for […]
The Trouble with Giving Advice There are at least two potential problems with advice-giving. First, it attempts to move the person in pain prematurely forward to rational problem-solving. Most of us are aware that when in the grip of strong emotion, it’s difficult to think all that rationally, so it’s not really a good idea […]
QUESTION My husband and I have two little boys and a baby on the way. I am especially concerned about my son who just turned four. He is physically healthy and strong for his age and looks like he is two years older than he really is. He is a loving brother and smart boy, […]
QUESTION: I struggle with eating disorders. My brother-in-law does not believe that mental disorders and problems are any different from physical problems. We had quite a discussion over Christmas and things have been very uncomfortable between us ever since. His daughter has a learning disability and his wife (my sister) is deaf in one ear. […]