My daughter, Eden, posted this on her blog recently and I find myself going back to it, once in a while, for sheer enjoyment. It always makes me smile.

More and more, society seems to regard fatherhood as optional. 41% of childbirths in the U.S. occur outside marriage. In 2 of 3 of these births, the father is never legally identified. It is estimated that 36% of children in America live apart from their fathers. More than half of divorced fathers lose contact with their children within a few years. Ten years after divorce, as many as 2/3 of dads have drifted out of their children’s lives. A 1994 study showed men were more likely to default on a child-support payment (49%) than on a used-car payment (3%).

Kids need dads. Studies show that father-child one-on-one involvement, at least 3 times each week is associated with significantly higher levels of empathy and compassion in developing children and the adults they become. A positive relationship with dad may be the best prevention against gender identity confusion in young men. And positive interaction with dad is associated with better success in school, career, and social adjustment, to name just a few areas of impact.

So, watch the video now and then, smile, and–to all you dads–be involved and stay connected. We need you.

Note: Two great books on the impact of fathers are Fatherless America, by David Blankenhorn, and Life Without Father, by David Popenoe. I believe both are out of print but not hard to find online.

  1. Bethany says:

    “Fatherless America” is still available on Amazon.

    And thanks!

  2. Kawika says:

    Great post. Thanks for the insights.

  3. This is lovely. My sentiments exactly. (Five kids, one more coming soon, founder of Daddies United)

  4. Jared says:

    Great post. I also recommend Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker, M.D.

  5. Stan says:

    I’ve noticed the trend to attack and discredit fatherhood. Personally, I see it as just one more part of the overall effort to disassemble the family unit as God ordained it.

    I really don’t think some people understand the value of gender identities or of having a parent of each sex.

    For some reason, we think we’re smarter than God. I regret that my kids have to grow up facing the effects of that mentality, but I’m trying to help them find the right foundation (though I don’t do the cheerleading thing, sorry) for them to ground themselves on.

    Wish me luck. 🙂

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