REALLY Celebrate Christmas Eve

I don’t remember which year it was, but I was still a full-time-mom-at-home with eight kids at the time. That year, Christmas fell on Monday. I hurried to make sure all the shopping was done on Saturday, of course, since we don’t shop on Sundays. And then, Christmas Eve on Sunday was a gift. The best kind of gift—unanticipated and a perfect fit. We went to Church and sang beautiful Christmas carols and heard a lovely choir program and nice Christmas messages. Then we went home and soaked up the spirit of the season as a family. We ended the day with the same Christmas story re-enactment so many families reserve for Christmas Eves. One of the most memorable re-enactments was the year one of our youngest daughter, Faith, played the donkey and carried that year’s Mary, our oldest daughter, Bethany, across the family room floor until the “donkey” coughed (she was kind of sick) and pitched Mary to the floor. I’m pretty sure we have that on film though just the memory makes me laugh. But I digress.

Anyway, the point is that I couldn’t get over how wonderful that year’s holiday was. Instead of the usual last-minute errands and deliveries that characterized Christmas Eves Past, our Sabbath Christmas Eve let us celebrate the meaning of Christmas so much better. So, I thought, why should we only get that opportunity once every seven years?

Since then, I have made a dedicated effort to complete all Christmas shopping, errands, gift-wrapping, and most of the cooking no later than December 23rd.  Then, no matter how the calendar falls, Christmas Eve can be a day at home, with the family, listening to wonderful Christmas music and feeling the spirit of the holiday in an entirely different way because I’m done, I’m ready. Of course, I haven’t been perfect at this plan. There is still sometimes a dash to the grocery store or last-minute wrapping to complete—it always seems to take longer than I think—and some years have come closer than others to my December 23rd deadline. But it’s MUCH BETTER than before.

This year, I’m shooting for December 22nd.

  1. Pops says:

    I hope you made it this year. I didn’t. Gotta make a run to the store this morning.

    I hate Christmas shopping. What can I say. Every once in a while I’m able to find something that is a blessing to the recipient, but more often not.

    This year one (adult) child specifically requested that we get him nothing. Do you think that will actually work? It probably would if he weren’t coming over on Christmas morning. I don’t know if he meant what he said or if it’s some kind of devious test of his parents.

  2. Lili says:

    You know what, I DID actually make it this year :). I had to run one errand yesterday, but not a big deal and even all the wrapping is done.

    So good luck on your last run to the store and I hope you enjoy the rest of Christmas Eve.

    And about that adult child–kids are tricky–for what it’s worth, I would give him cash. Maybe with a card saying something like, “This is what we spent on your siblings and we want you to have it for whatever might be useful to you, even if you just bank it.”

    Merry Christmas!

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